There is a new generation of coffee aficionados in Thailand growing and spreading the value of single origin, organic, Arabica coffee. It’s a transformation and business opportunity in the making. Only discriminating coffee lovers need apply.
It was GV’s idea. Suddenly on our list of things to do one sweltering day last month in Bangkok was finding a paint store. “Let’s keep it simple,” she said.
I had six rectangular pieces of cardboard I was saving for a practical application. So we picked up one tube each of three colors and a painting knife. At the mall where we bought the paint, we sampled a Nespresso and they let us keep the plastic cup. We were set with all the paraphernalia necessary.
Unfortunately, this week’s title is due to catching unwanted downtime, along with a tad of unpreparedness. There is no good excuse for not doing something you’ve committed to do. So if you check this blog with any frequency, then I’m honored and thankful. And I also apologize for skipping a week, due to time off.
P.S. I’ve started wearing a tie while writing posts, invested in a new hairstyle, and had 30+ years of wrinkles removed from my forehead.
It can be your best friend. And it can be exasperatingly annoying. After all, parrots are beautiful but only intermittently smart. They speak our language so they can be comforting. But they tend to repeat themselves, ad nauseam with random gibberish, which can be obnoxious. Continue reading
You know,…those occupations we perform that keep life flowing. Those (mostly) self-imposed duties that keep us from real living. The perpetual actions that don’t contribute to noticeable forward progress. The errands we execute that may even be termed drudgery.
When I lived in San Francisco some time ago, a good friend of mine commented upon retiring at 40, that he noticed personal maintenance constituted about 20% of his non-sleep time. He had a small home and lived alone so he was talking about routine chores like laundry, cleaning, personal care, preparing meals, washing up the kitchen, etc., — all the small jobs that come with independently keeping a healthy home and body.
Housewives and homemakers with kids peg the maintenance percent much higher, closer to the inverse of my friend, 80% or above. We all conduct maintenance, whether brushing teeth, going to the gym, or filling the car’s gas tank.
Our free time usually dictates our relationship to many of the day-to-day upkeep responsibilities. They fall into categories of; we accept doing them, we do them grudgingly, we avoid doing them, have someone else do them, or we don’t think they need to be done (as often as they should be). Seldom are they actions we leap out of bed to perform with gusto. Wherever they land though, a key question is, do we embrace (any of) the maintenance?
In our small NYC apartment, we luckily have two bathrooms. The one I use, the one visitors use, I’m responsible for. Which means that when I’m there, at least weekly I am on my hands and knees scrubbing around the toilet. Not a job many of us relish but one I’ve reluctantly come to embrace (at least the bathroom I use).
Daily exercise of some type is a non-negotiable physical service. Sometimes it is pleasurable, other times it’s damn hard. For me, it usually falls somewhere in-between and accepted as a necessary self-preservation habit.
During the last few years, because much of my time is spent living on my own in Asia and hiring help is not so convenient, I do the routine household chores myself. Further, because I’m cooking more often, the maintenance category has increased markedly. I’m kind of stunned at the amount of time sucked up by the entire food prep process. Eating well is paramount, and basic. But finding food with good ingredients is not always easy, especially when it’s prepared with industrial oils and sweeteners. Hence, my maintenance percent has skyrocketed. I may not be up near the busy housewife with five kids, but I’m at least in the 50/50 zone. Buying, washing, cutting and preparing, food, then cleaning the dishes and kitchen is no small amount of time. Besides food, the places I live, because I like the windows open, collect dust so fast that cleaning has become a daily labor I’ve been grappling to embrace more firmly. Laundry — the washing, drying, folding, (I rarely iron and it may show), of clothing, towels and bed linen is another chunk of valuable time.
The other day GV, who is visiting me in Asia, cleaned my refrigerator, which she said was disgusting. It was a necessary maintenance chore I not only hadn’t been embracing but also didn’t realize was as sorely needed as it was.
Whether we fold laundry while watching a video or listen to audiobooks during the work commute, we try to find ways to soften life chores to make necessary tasks more tolerable (efficient). Some outsource a block of maintenance (vis-à-vis maids, restaurants, or partner agreements). But then again, there is subtle value in adopting even small rituals, such as making the bed in the morning. I’ve known many, mostly males, who do the minimum amount of domestic work. It’s not considered macho business. Real men don’t clean toilets. Although the understated value of cleaning up after yourself is not to be sneezed at.
The trick, it seems, is a little mental juxtaposition, to turn tasks from drudgery to willing acceptance. It may just be, that if successful, the result is a more positive alignment of perspective, having a favorable rollover effect to other aspects of life.
Besides, last year McMaster University conducted a study showing that doing housework five times per week can cut the risk of early death by 20%.
Hmm,…I’d better start a more serious mental exercise program, digging deep to welcome with open arms, the mountain of life maintenance which seems to be growing, and be content that it’s only me I’m maintaining.
Kind of like the right amount to eat — the ideal portion size and the mix of nutrients may or may not be regularly appraised. We tend to speak on autopilot, whether to ourselves, our significant other, strangers, family members, work colleagues, yadda yadda.
I’m not referring to our new form of exchange — texting made easy, otherwise known as genetically modified speak, although the right amount certainly applies to all types of talk. I’m thinking of the sincere dialogues we have when sound is made from our vocal cords.
Lately, perhaps due to a cognition malfunction, I’ve been mixing large portions of junk food speak into otherwise semi-healthy discussions. Moreover, I’ve been serving up meaty colloquies to fellow humans interested in a lighter buffet of breeze shooting.
When speaking, like eating, we’d like our messages to be easily digestible, no matter the portion size. Ideal digestibility occurs when there are healthy ebb and flows to a conversation. A wholesome back and forth is largely dependent on portion size; i.e., somewhere between sermonizing and stubby responses. So there is a payoff to consider the listener’s taste preference and enthusiasm. For important conversations, that may mean selecting a time when the listener is open to chow. Many weighty chats are infinitely more satisfying with several well-planned courses full of balanced flavors, like sweet and sour, bitter and salty.
Broaching more serious topics may call for attractive appetizers to stir the hunger juices, making the main course more appealing. At the same time, getting to the point shouldn’t require an entire meal of hors-d’oeuvres, leaving the main course overkill.
Good conversations, like nourishing meals, contain natural ingredients, the right amount of spice and complimentary flavors. Healthy exchanges lack synthetic components, such as exaggerations (except for entertaining stories where no one’s ego is exploited), untruths, and gossip. Sure, there are times to nibble. Sometimes one-word replies are more adequate than a bouquet of words circling the point. And still, other times when the occasional lite fast (no speak) is more rewarding than grazing to fill in the silence with noise, whatever the portion size.
Now, in our relatively new global melting pot, fusion cooking has become part of our diets. The evolution of fusion speak is not far behind. Regardless of the mix or whether our spiels are to entertain, explain a position, persuade, inform, or just tell a story, the value of our utterances is determined by the listener’s digestion. That may involve a feast or a nosh — in either case, keeping in mind the portion size of postulations that exit our mouth is worth the effort.
Post point and note to self: a dialogue containing discernment, even/especially on the fly, about portion size can make a significant difference in the reception of a message.
It greeted me New Year’s day, 2018, by nagging me non-stop.
At the garment factory I frequent, a couple of Indian boys visit periodically at the request of their employer (our customer) to perform random quality inspections. With them, they bring their own eating utensils, including plates. They are strict vegetarians and won’t eat off of dishes that have ever served dead animal, even if the remnants have been thoroughly washed off. They also lightly sweep in front of them as they walk so as not to kill any insects. It’s part of their religious culture and belief.
Not to be critical, but the custom and practice aren’t logical. I could be wrong if the washed plate still harbors negative energy from a piece of flesh that was once there, doing the eater harm (which seems over-the-top far-fetched). But the practice of sweeping insects from your footpath to avoid squashing them is like saying “I only care about that which I can see, not what I cannot see.” Science is showing us that the overwhelming majority of life forms are smaller than we can visually detect. Therefore, this sect of religion must believe that the value of life is dependent on size. But then again, religious beliefs tend to evolve with scientific discoveries.
Anyway, I digress. Although I think it’s quite pointless and even silly, to sweep insects from your walking path, I have become softer on the outright massacre of nuisance insects. Oh, I still annihilate, without regret, groups of small ants that appear in the kitchen, or another part of my home. But it must be the books I’ve been reading about the connectivity of all sentient beings, that I now tend to leave the errant spider or housefly alone. I do my best to prevent them spinning webs inside the house or landing on my food, so I shoo them away rather than squash them without thought.
However, the menace who joined my household last week on New Years Day tested my newfound anti-assassination resolve because it seemed particularly attracted to me. No amount of shooing kept it from landing on my exposed skin. But I over-exaggerate. It did give me a short break from every 15-20 shoos. I tried coaxing it out of the balcony door or the windows but it would not leave. The weather is pleasant outdoors. I leave the apartment at every opportunity, so why was the fly so insistent on staying in my small enclosed habitat? Hmm,…I guess that is why they are called houseflies. They’ve been following humans around the globe for thousands of years. They pester us on every continent from the Arctic Circle to the Equator.
Yesterday, after six days in its new digs, my new unwanted pet must have called a few of its cousins. That kind of turned the corner for me. Yes, they are sentient beings, but they also carry pathogens. So I twisted a hand towel and snapped them out. It took a while and I considered it an exercise in delicacy. I did my best to scare them away without inflicting pain (I think). But one remained. I presume it was the original from one week ago as it had the same pesty insistence. I thought about leaving it alone, knowing its average lifespan is only 15-30 days; nevertheless, I went about swatting at it with a renewed vigor. I don’t think I killed it so it appears to have finally left.
Because the temperature is warm, the screen-less balcony door and window stay open when I’m at home. So sure, one, or more, of those pesky flying insects will invade my apartment soon. So only time will tell if my restraint will show a newer, softer, and kinder Freddie Spaghetti insect killing machine.